Hmmm….my life makes me wonder as we see people walking around what their stories entail. Is the soccer mom with three kids a former stripper? Is the dad pulling his daughter down the street in a wagon a convicted murder? Everyone has a history, everyone has a past. These two examples may be someone you know. These two examples may be some of the best people you know. We have no idea if the history people tell you is true to their life or if they prefer to not talk about it. We don’t know their story, just as I don’t know your story. “Judge not, lest ye be judged.” I prefer to live life by this mantra, these words from the Bible.
Think on this for a moment, if you meet someone and they are supremely awesome human beings, then you learn something about their past you don’t like, do you judge them? Do you not make the effort to meet up with them? Do you try to pull away because 20 years ago they messed up?
What about that thought process is right?
Take people into consideration. Take the evolution of self into account. People grow and change so much between 20 and 40 that you can’t compare the two stages of life. At 20, we are reckless, we are carefree, we think nothing bad will ever happen to us, we continue to make life changing mistakes for a long time. By 40, we have fallen, we have scraped our knees, and we have figured out that if you play with fire it more than likely will burn you every time.
As I type I am listening to Blue October. One of my favorite hometown bands, and the lyric is “Hate me today, so you can finally see what’s good for you…” This is my favorite song of theirs. It is full of pain and remorse, forgiveness and hope. Hope for the future. Hope for the possibility of not being judged for who you were, but for who you are.
If you haven’t heard this song, for whatever reason…listen to it just click on the title and it will take you to the video at Roxwell.com
If you take one thing from today, please let it be this…don’t blame people for their pasts, it already hurts enough, love them and befriend them for who they are today.