This week Danielle LaPorte is asking: What’s one Dumb thing that you used to believe in?
Part three in the Burning Question Series.
I’m not sure if I want to rant or continue with the psycho babble of late.
Perhaps a combination?
To answer the question I think the dumbest thing I ever believed in was emotionally “Fakin’ it til I make it.”
To be honest with myself that is just what I do. I know. I plaster a smile on my face, speak when spoken to, and try to make as few waves as possible. I keep the reality of what I would like to say bottled up because I might hurt someone’s feelings.
This is me? This was the old me? Maybe she is still there, somewhere, hiding until presented with an uncomfortable situation.
I have made concerted direct efforts to change from this docile phantom into a passionate, educated being fully aware of her emotions.
I realized the illness surrounding me, permeating every relationship and choice I made.
I grew a back bone and learned one simple phrase. “That doesn’t work for me.”
You aren’t telling the other person that their feelings are flat-out wrong, you’re just admitting to them that it doesn’t resonate well within your mind, your spirit, you. You are leaving it up to them to make their own mistakes.
This one small phrase has changed me.
Look around yourself, your friends, your life, the world. What do you see?
Me? I see illness. I see brokenness. I see people putting on a good show because they think that it’s what we need to be a happy, productive society.
But how many of us are really happy?
How many of us are really that productive?
What do you produce that works for not only your selfish purpose but could impact the rest of us?
We don’t all have to have a global impact though…so what are you choosing that is making a difference in the lives of your loved ones?
We have the good choices versus bad choices discussion seemingly every day at our house lately. I believe that people are good. What we make though are the choices to be/do good or to be/do bad. Right now my son struggles with rash behaviors. He will do something impulsively and know immediately that it was a wrong choice. He will say I don’t know why I do it, but we all know.
He’s made a choice.
Consciously or subconsciously I do know…but he chose to dump the carton of milk on his friends lunch tray. He chose to hold scissors up to a kids head and pretend to cut it. He is having to deal with the consequences of his choices.
Looking around at my community I think of BP, Transocean Offshore, and (was it Halliburton?)
BP is a big company here in Houston, so is Transocean, and well…Halliburton is big anywhere. They employ a lot of local folks. They employ a lot of folks I know. They offer incredible benefits. They give great bonus’ and incentives. As far as employers go they are so big because they offer a great package. They offer the things individuals need to create a life for themselves.
Obviously I am getting to the oil spill from 2010.
Somewhere along the way from the time they planted that platform in the Gulf of Mexico until the day it exploded there were individual choices made that impacted the end result. Fix this, don’t fix that. Lowest bidder here, less than satisfactory work done there. Over the course of the lifetime of the platform each of the companies that had a hand in it failed to make the best choices possible.
11 men lost their lives, thousands of men became unemployed from the resulting spill and restrictions placed on offshore drilling.
The ecosystem of the Gulf is still recovering. Millions of barrels, perhaps billions of barrels of oil were projected into this body of water that I love. All from ill-fated choices.
What of our planet?
What choices are the leaders of this world making that have a lasting impact?
Are these good or bad? Do they do things of their own determination or are they just a puppet system for a secret society?
There is supposed to be a flow of information from the masses up to the leadership. We are told from a young age that our leaders are acting in our best interests, but as we age many of us don’t believe this is the case. What will the consequence of this be?
As a society we are fakin’ it and trying to look like we are makin’ it.
This is not a good choice.
This is a bad choice.
We need to embrace ourselves, our lives, and our choices. We need to know what turns us on. We need passion. We need to know what we want in the world, not what we want out of it.
We need to believe that our choices will have an impact.
We need to take the steps necessary to right wrongs. To make the world better for all.
To listen. To evolve. To choose.
Happiness, faith, peace, love, unity, confidence, passion.