Getting to know you

There is a learning curve when you are out meeting new people, or even old friends. Just as you are getting to know them or getting reaquainted with them you start to make assumptions about who they are without directly asking the questions. This morning I woke up singing the song “Getting to know you” from the King and I.


Because my history is full. I won’t say it’s checkered, but certainly eventful. Several of my friends are pushing me to write books about it all because if told properly is sounds more like a comedy in unfortunate dilemna’s.

I don’t think anyone would understand it without a book. It may also require a timeline and bubble notes.

How did you meet this person? How does that person fit? When were you in Europe? The bailbonds man seriously didn’t ask you for ID anymore? Why didn’t you leave him? When did you live with that person? You’re seeing who now? You ran away? From what?! Now you’re planning on doing what?!?!

“You’re insane, but I love you!”

It reads like an epic adventure. I want it to read like an epic adventure. I don’t want to have to say I didn’t try everything. I crave adventure. I crave life.

I don’t care if people think I am wild or crazy or surround myself with questionable people (on occassion.) These are the things that create memories. These are the people that make you want to have bigger and better experiences.

I am able to say that I have lived. I have loved. I have spoken the truth regardless of the circumstances. If I love you you know it. If I like you I tell you. If I want to know something I will ask.

If anyone ever wants to know anything about anything I have been through or done all they need to do is simply ask. This is my blanket permission slip.

In the past I wasn’t always open about events or the things that were happening. I was lost, ashamed, even afraid of the things that were going on, but no more.

I will no longer feel smaller than my spirit for choosing to live in the moment.

Our choices do not define us. We are a sum of so much more than our choices. In essence our choices don’t matter. We must take the initiative to live out loud. We must be able to fail and try again.

There are many people that I would like to get to know better, currently only one that I would like to get reaquainted with completely. What encourages them? What do they dream? How did they do all of these amazing things? What brought out their voice and created their presence?

This just about sums it up for me…

If you want to know something about the people in your life ask them questions directly, if they lie to you, leave them.

If they are able to tell you the truth and you can handle it keep them forever.


It helps to be Optimistic on 9/11

September 11, 2001. That is a day we all remember. Many of us remember what we were doing. We remember how we reacted. We remember going home and just holding our families, because “What if we were next?”

It is now 10 years later.

Most of us have been affected in one way or another by the events of that day. I was watching a special on MSNBC about the newscasters who were reporting that day and they got incredibly emotional while they were forced to rehash the news events of that day.

Well, what did we learn? What have we achieved? Where do we move on from here?

We learned that not everyone is a fan of the United States. Some people hate our country and our way of life to the point of violence.

Not just violence, but an inhuman act of tragedy.

We achieved a decade of war and warring opinions on whether we should be at war or not.

We achieved becoming less than we were. It may not have been the cause, but eventually with all of our resources flowing out of the country Bin Laden achieved his ultimate goal of changing the face of America. Today many Americans are out of the job and/or behind on bills. We live paycheck to paycheck and those that don’t are a lucky few.

We achieved the knowledge that we are not invincible. That is an achievement, albeit one that none of us wanted to learn.

We have learned to humble ourselves on the world stage.

We have no where to move yet, at least that is my opinion. We are crippled by the destruction of the structures, the wars, the economy. We are in limbo waiting for our prayers to be answered so that we can move on.

We are all living with the reality that this could happen again.

So – WHAT should we do about it?

It is my humble opinion that we need to grieve.

It is my opinion that this ten year anniversary will mark a new era for our country. We will be able to wake up out of this funk and find that which makes us whole.

I think if we each acknowledge the past, but begin to take the steps to fulfillment then eventually the nation will start to be able to take steps to fulfill it’s destiny.

We need to start living for today. Stop thinking about what was and start thinking about what could be.

We need to open our hearts to new loves. We need to open our arms to our families. Embrace forgiveness.

As a nation we are still broken, but I think that if each of us can allow that which is broken to repair within us, then the nation will once again thrive.
It may be possible to achieve greatness once again.

We may never be what we once were, but we can be something new. Something better. Something more tolerant. More forgiving. More peaceful.